The Morning I Realized I Didn’t Like My Husband
I woke up annoyed.
Again.
The way he chewed his cereal irritated me. The way he left his socks on the floor made me want to scream. The way he scrolled his phone instead of talking to me made me feel invisible.
I didn’t hate him.
But I didn’t like him either.
And the guilt was crushing.
“Good Christian wives love their husbands. What’s wrong with me?”
Love Is a Choice (Not Just a Feeling)
Here’s the truth:
Love is a verb. Not just an emotion.
“Love is patient, love is kind…” (1 Corinthians 13:4)
Notice what it doesn’t say:
“Love is a warm fuzzy feeling.”
“Love is butterflies.”
“Love is always easy.”
Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does.
Even when you don’t feel like it.
Why Marriage Gets Hard
When you first got married, everything was easy.
He made you laugh. You talked for hours. You couldn’t keep your hands off each other.
But then:
- Life got stressful
- Kids arrived
- Money got tight
- You stopped dating
- You started keeping score
And now, you’re roommates who occasionally argue.
Sound familiar?
What God Says About Marriage
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)
God didn’t say:
- “Love your husband when he deserves it.”
- “Respect your husband when he earns it.”
He said: Love. Respect. Period.
Not because he’s perfect. Because God commands it.
1. Pray for Him (Even When You’re Mad)
This is hard. But it works.
You can’t stay angry at someone you’re praying for.
Pray:
- For his heart
- For his struggles
- For his relationship with God
- For your marriage
2. Serve Him (Even When You Don’t Want To)
Make his coffee. Fold his laundry. Thank him for working.
Acts of service soften your heart, even when you don’t feel like it.
3. Speak Life Over Him
Stop criticizing. Stop nagging. Stop keeping score.
Say:
- “Thank you for providing for our family.”
- “I appreciate you.”
- “You’re a good dad.”
Even if you don’t feel it. Say it anyway.
4. Initiate Touch
Hold his hand. Hug him. Sit next to him on the couch.
Physical touch reconnects you, even when words fail.
5. Remember Why You Married Him
Pull out old photos. Read old love letters. Remember who he was before life got hard.
He’s still in there. So is your love.
When Liking Him Returns
Here’s the beautiful truth:
When you choose to love him—even when you don’t like him—the liking comes back.
Not immediately. But eventually.
Love softens hearts. Including yours.
A Prayer for the Wife Who’s Struggling
“God, I don’t like my husband right now. And I feel guilty for it. Forgive me. Soften my heart. Help me to choose love even when I don’t feel it. Remind me why I married him. Restore what feels broken. Amen.”
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